All entourage emails are autmatically categorized

[expat4ever]

Currently I am keeping all my sent emails to the "sent messages"
folder. I also categorize all my receive/sent emails with various
categories.

First, it always takes a long time for a sent email to show up in the
"sent messages" folder. I have no problems with messages showing up
in my Inbox quickly. secondly, for some strange reason, all my sent
emails are automatically stored with a "family" category!

What can I do to speed up the sent messages and how do I get rid of
the "family" category on every single sent email?

thanks in advance.